This might be one of the most obvious topics I’ve ever wanted to discuss – I think that in itself is an important revelation. Communication is everything and yet so many people struggle with it. Not only that, but the consistency of it. Don’t be oblivious to what is right in front of you, just because it’s easy to forget the obvious.
I’ve seen, firsthand, the detrimental effects of poor communication. It ruins relationships, and it ruins your soul. All through my life, I’ve been victim to it plenty of times because I actually didn’t know any better.
There is value in the words you use and speak, and these words are unlimited. So, why would you ever use them sparingly in moments where they’re desperately needed?
Being able to communicate honestly and openly is life’s biggest hack. It is an integral part of emotional maturity that few possess. Although I would now self-define as emotionally mature, I hadn’t always been, and I believe this is something I’ve fostered and honed over the last few years.
As I mentioned, I witnessed the absolute carnage of emotional immaturity in those around me as I grew up where there was such a lack of communication. In an environment like that, it was second nature to “get in a mood” and “shut down,” ultimately not addressing problems as they arose and as I felt them.
When emotions are involved, responses like these are inevitable, especially when you’re growing up. It’s all very human, but humans are destructive, even when they don’t realise. Don’t let your emotions dictate how well you communicate.
When there is a problem, you must address it directly with whoever is involved, if they are worth your time – there are some unfortunate people out there who share concerning amounts of similarity to brick walls.
So, feel those emotions but don’t let them sit forever. Clarify to those around you that you are feeling a certain type of way and let them know you will need some time away to order all your thoughts. That way, everyone is in the loop and you’re not causing additional strain because you’ve just stated the facts. And that is all you ever had to do.
In my own head, I have whole sentences lined up which I realised I can actually just say out loud, if I’m brave enough – but sometimes, a little bit of time away to reorder those sentences is best. Every time I’ve done this, and then been able to communicate something effectively has opened up a layer of depth I previously didn’t know existed.
Having those tricky conversations paves the way for understanding at a deeper level. So many things that eat at your soul could be hashed out through effective communication. And you yourself would feel a lot better through it – and this has always been the case. It’s such an obvious insight that even I overlooked, but never again.
Speak your thoughts into existence, with honesty – now that it’s all out there, you can move onto action.
There is value in the words you use and speak, and these words are unlimited. So, why would you ever use them sparingly in moments where they’re desperately needed?
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